KATZ: The World Needs More Men
It's OK to be a man. And it's OK to act like a man.
Unless you go to college. College, it seems, thinks being a man is nothing more than a catch phrase for being an unrepentant rapist even if you've never had such a disgusting thought in your life, nor actually commited the violent act! In college, being a man means you're unable to find love, incapable of dealing with your feelings, have (or one day will have!) contributed to the degredation of all women everywhere and, therefore, must be neutered in public and private.
College can be a nasty place.
The University of Wisconsin-Madison (a school you go to when you're not smart enough to get into Cal-Berkeley, and a school you send your kids to when you hate them) has initiated the "Men's Project." The six-week course:
...creates a space for critical self-reflection and dialogue about what it means to be a man and how masculinity impacts us and those around us
Sounds harmless enough. Until you realize that you don't reflect on what a man thinks about what it means to be a man. Rather, you reflect on what some social justice harpy says you should reflect on. Mainly, why are you such a disgusting, violent freak?
Don't believe me? Here's the first line from the Men's Project on the campus website: (emphasis theirs)
Media, hook up culture, alcohol, violence, pop culture; expectations around masculinity impact all of us
I've been a man all my life. My father was a man. My grandfathers were both men. My great great great grandfather was a man, as was his father before him. And never once did any of them think being a man was about alcohol and violence.
That's just a lie. Yes, a lie. An untruth. Garbage. Nonsense. Pablum. White Noise.
Just two lines later, in the same paragraph:
These conversations can help us better understand ourselves and empower men to work as allies to promote gender equity and social justice.
No. They can't. Nothing associated with social justice can help men, nor can it ever empower men (or women, or thinking people in general,) because being a man has nothing to do with gender equality and social justice.
Facts are tricky things, in that they can't be explained away by dreams, wishes and hopes. So, to try and help the social justice warriors who think they understand men, let's go over a few, fact-based, ground rules.
- There is nothing wrong with being a man. Nothing.
- Being a man is different than being a woman. This is not "unequal." This isn't a bad thing.
- Men act differently than women. This is not "unequal." This is fine.
As Dr. Helen Smith discusses in her book, "Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream - and Why It Matters," men today have increasingly opted-out of being men precisely because of creations like "Men's Project."
...why should men participate in a system that seems to be increasingly stacked against them?
As "Men on Strike" demonstrates, men aren’t dropping out because they are stuck in arrested development. They are instead acting rationally in response to the lack of incentives society offers them to be responsible fathers, husbands and providers. In addition, men are going on strike, either consciously or unconsciously, because they do not want to be injured by the myriad of laws, attitudes and hostility against them for the crime of happening to be male in the twenty-first century.
Said differently, an entire generation of men are refusing to act like men because an entire generation of social justice lying jerks have told men that acting like men is a crime against themselves and humanity.
At Gettysburg College, male students are required to watch a movie on "toxic masculinity." The film, "The Mask You Live In," attempts to link the idea of masculinity to violence. In this case, to perpetrators of mass shootings, including the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting that left 20 children and six adults dead.
According to sources, the film maintains that the statement, “be a man” is the single most destructive thing a growing boy can hear.
No. The single most destructive thing a growing boy can hear is, "Can you introduce me to your friend?"
There is no doubt that Dr. Helen is correct. Men, in truth and in the main, don't want to be like women. Men want to take care of women, or the ones they love. They want responsibility, and want to provide. They seek it out. Men act differently than women. They're not violent - that's not being a man. Being protective, and being willing to physically defend or protect their loved ones is not something we should denigrate. It's important. It's valuable. And, yes, it's worthy.
Violence for the sake of violence, like the Knockout Game, is not the mark of a man. That's a criminal.
No subject I have ever talked about on radio has gotten a more positive, passionate response as my conversation on what it means to be a man. I said at the time:
There are many males out there but there are very few men left in the world.
Men are not violent. Men are not afraid to protect what is their responsibility, to defend what is their responsibility, to care for and to nuture what is their responsibility.
Men are different than women and it's okay. There is no problem with this. There is no problem whatsoever with having certain biological imperatives and those being different than women and finding how good those things work together in the creation of families and in leading a life. Men are not rude or crude to women and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying.
But being a man doesn't mean you're there to accept nonsense and garbage and be hurt because somehow, that's the right thing to do.
We need a society that raises men. Men are different than women and that is quite all right. Anyone who tells you otherwise is someone you need to exclude from your life.
Those to "exclude" includes all those involved with the "Men's Project" at The University of Wisconsin-Madison, those involved with this sickening film at Gettysburg College and any group, anywhere, that wants men to stop being men. Being a man is good, and the world needs many more of them.
And if you want to know what a society that hates men looks like, check out the tweet of this "man:"
That was sent by this "man:"
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